A vibrator, sometimes described as a massager, is a sex toy used to produce pleasurable sexual stimulation of the body. Vibrators come in many different shapes and models. Most 2010-era vibrators included a motorized mechanism that throbbed or throbbed. Vibrators can be used in single-player and co-op play with one or more players. Devices exist for couples to use to stimulate the genitals of both partners. Vibrators are best known for solo play, but did you know they can also be used during sex?
Think about it - if your favorite vibe brings you a refreshing orgasm, imagine what happens when it's in the hands of someone who seriously excites you...
The equation is simple: vibrators plus babes equals hell yeah.
(Note: This article is for vaginal folks looking to incorporate vibrators into cooperative sex with cis men. However, these tips apply to all genders.)
Those who sleep with heterosexual men may find that their partner refuses to use toys at first. Unfortunately, many men feel that if a woman needs a vibrator, he is "not enough".
Newsflash: A very (very) high percentage of clitoral owners need an extra hand -- or vibrator -- to get them over the edge during cooperative sex. While recent discoveries of the full shape of the clitoris prove that all orgasms are clitoral orgasms, many people with vaginas require direct stimulation of the outer head of the clitoris to orgasm.
A vibrator is a tool. If you built a house, no one would say it was actually built with a hammer, would it?
So this is the general stuff. But what about the specific situation? Here are five ways you can use a vibrator during sex.
1. Make it part of the foreplay.
You can use the vibrator in the same places you use your hands in foreplay. Let your partner buzz you through your underwear to get you started, and then continue to make direct contact with your clitoris and vulva.
You can also turn it around and use it on your partner. Run a circle around his thigh until you reach the perineum (the part between the ball and the anus), giving him a stimulation he may not have experienced before.
2. Put it between your body.
Depending on the position, placement can be a little tricky when you're having penetrative sex. How do you use a vibrator when the space between you is tight and everything is moving?
One way is to climb up and put the vibe between your body, clinging to your clitoris. It's interesting for this pose because it adds vibration when you press it, which means your body movement makes it pulsate. However, it's round, so it might roll away!
Another way is to get into a "reverse cowgirl" position, where you're on top, with your back facing your partner's head.
This gives your partner's hands the freedom to reach out to maintain vibe on your clitoris, or to keep vibes on your clitoris, without the difficulty of squeezing your hands between your moving bodies.
3. Or buy one you can wear.
If you find it difficult to hold your vibrator during sex, there are some wearable vibrator options. One particularly cool is the clitoral stimulator, the most comfortable and flexible hands-free wearable couple vibrator.
Another option is the Penis Ring, which is a vibrating penis ring worn on the bottom of its shaft to provide you with clitoral stimulation during insertion.
4. Incorporate spoken language.
Place the vibrator on your cheek when performing oral sex. This will transfer some of the buzzing to your partner's penis. Or, if it feels too weird, apply it to their testicles, perineum, and anus for extra stimulation.
They will love it.
5. For nipple play.
Vibrators aren't just for genitals!
If you like nipple games, you'll love the vibes there too. Try it on your partner, or let them try it on you, especially for nipple stimulation during sex.