Sexy can be an important part of satisfying sex life. Engaging the five senses (taste, touch, smell, hearing and sight) with smell, texture, sight, sexy music and more can be the key to a truly explosive experience.
For many people, dominance and submission can add an exciting element to sex—even those who consider themselves on the more "vanilla" end of the perversion spectrum.
So what happens when you combine sexy and domination? You get sensory games (aka sensory games). Today we're going to take a look at sensory play and find out what it is, how to use it sexually, and how to try it yourself. Read on to find out how sensory play can help your sex life!
What is sensory play?
Sensory play (or sensory play) is an umbrella term that applies to a wide range of activities - including perversion and super tame - using bodily sensations to induce sexual pleasure. Are you familiar with refusing to orgasm or even compulsive orgasm? Sensory play can also be one way to control your partner's orgasm. This might sound interesting, because isn't all sex about creating happy bodily sensations? The difference here is that sensory play focuses more on the individual senses, helping to build pleasant tension and sensual anticipation.
Sensory play may involve subtle or gentle things that appeal to the senses, such as candles, rose petals, silk scarves, feathers, or ice. It can also be tilted to the more curved side with a whip, whip, electrical stimulation, etc., to induce sexual arousal.
The main difference between sensory play in a BDSM setting is that it may involve some role-playing or restraint and the feeling of being used as punishment or reward by the dominant partner.
What your sensory gaming involves is entirely up to you, but know that there are a few things (probably a few more) you can do to try sensory gaming, no matter what you are on the scale from "super vanilla to BDSM lover" .
How is sensory deprivation used during sex?
So, sensory or sensory games will definitely involve adding sensations that engage the senses, but if you leave one (or more) senses out, what about sensory deprivation games?
It may sound intimidating, but if you've ever used an eye patch while you're on the go, you've fallen into sensory deprivation during sex! As far as sensory deprivation games go, vision is a very popular choice because it's both easy to disable and allows partners on the receiving end to let their imaginations run wild without them actually seeing what's going on.
It can be fun to blindfold your partner and stroke your partner's body using tools of different shapes and textures. In addition, feeding a blindfolded partner a variety of flavors is a classic form of sensory play, including sensory deprivation. Some people believe that when you remove someone's visual abilities, their other senses are "enhanced". While the jury is still out, many reports say the flavors are stronger and feel easier to shape when they're blindfolded.
If you and your partner enjoy sensory deprivation, you can try depriving each other of multiple senses—perhaps wearing a blindfold while they’re restrained so they can’t see or touch—and explore how the rest of the senses change of.
How do you have sensual sex?
Using different ways to engage different senses can create awesome foreplay, but it can also create a richer, deeper, and enhanced sexual experience. That's right, sensory play can make your sex life better! how did you do it? good question! Let's take a look at some different sensual sex techniques. I have segmented them according to the meaning they appeal to. check it out!
Taste
The relationship between food and sex goes back to the past. How far back? Well, the ancient Kama Sutra includes offering food to a partner as part of a seduction ritual! You can finger feed them, or offer some edible treats to eat off your body. Chocolate and fruit are classics, but if you want appealing flavors without risking eating everywhere, try flavored lube. With so many different varieties today, you can make a veritable buffet with the slippery stuff!
Touch
Most sex is rooted in touch anyway, so why not try to make touch feel a little richer? A massage is a good place to start, and frankly, in our competition with sex, massage often changes briefly, so instead of jumping straight to the genitals, try a gentle scalp massage or let your nails run along the skin . If you want to feel more intense, try some shock games or electrical stimulation. If you want to be super gentle, try gently stroking your partner's body with a silk scarf. You can even use bedding with various textures (satin and velvet can be an interesting combination) for a touch of touch.
Smell
Our sense of smell is very powerful and there are many ways to attract it. From deliciously scented perfumes, oils and lotions to scented candles or essential oil diffusers. Whether you want something sweet like vanilla, something relaxing like lavender, or something sensual like sandalwood, there's a scent for just about every taste. To create the perfect atmosphere, try different scents and different blends.
Hearing
Two words: sex playlist. Mix to set the mood you want. Whether it's gentle romance, sensual punchy beats, or even high energy, music can go a long way in helping you create and maintain your ideal mood. Besides music, the sounds we make in bed can be very stimulating. Whispers, moans, sighs, and dirty talk are all part of your sensory auditory tapestry, so don't be afraid to make some noise.
Sight
From using sensual colors (dark reds and purples are good choices) with decorative options like sexy lowlights and candles, to wearing sexy outfits you know will make your partner go wild, there are plenty of ways to create a visually stimulating vibe. If you really want to play with exciting visuals, read some sexy pictures and videos together and maybe pick something you want to try together.
As you can see, you have many options for incorporating sensory play into your sex life. You can mix and match and choose your favorite. However, it is important to pay attention to the intensity of the sensory stimulation. We want to appeal to our senses, not attack them
Sensory tools
For most blockbuster games, you don't have to buy anything - ice cubes, silk scarves and scented candles can certainly be found in many homes. That said, there are tons of fun tools and accessories to choose from! Here are a few things you might want to consider.
●Blindfold
● Restraint equipment: Light restraint or cuff, possibly some rope. You have many options.
●Texture tools: A long feather or a bit of fur...really, any skin that sounds like it will feel good.
●Massage candles: (Note: Massage candles melt at low temperature, so it is safe to massage. Please do not try to use ordinary household candles for massage)
●Underwear or dress-up gear: If your visual stimulation program involves a wardrobe, there are plenty of fun things to choose from.
When it comes to tools and toys for sensory play, the only limits are safety and your imagination! When it's time to play, make sure you have everything you need ready. If you plan to use a restraint or impact toy, be especially sure if you have a plan if your partner wants to end the scene (safe words are always a good idea), or if you need to quickly release it from the restraint (prepare a pair of hands) safety scissors on the head).
Things to Remember About Sensory Sex
So feeling fucked sounds like a good time, right? Absolutely, but there are a few things you need to keep in mind to make sure everyone stays safe and has fun.
Consent: As with any sexual activity, consent is critical to successful sensory play. This means checking before you blind someone or feed them. It's not surprising that a partner with whiplash suddenly appears. Check that what you want to play sounds good to them and accept their "no" gracefully.
Overwhelming: For some people, especially the sensitive among us, sensory stimulation can be overwhelming. It's always okay to stop if you or your partner are overwhelmed. It's also helpful to focus on one feeling at a time rather than taking a multi-faceted approach.
Aftercare: Sensory play may not be as intense as most BDSM activities (though it definitely can be!), but it can still be physically and emotionally exhausting. Even if you're feeling fine, it's a good idea to check in with your partner after you're done playing. A little aftercare can go a long way.
There are many ways we can deepen our sexual connections, improve intimacy, and enhance our sexual pleasure, and sensory play is probably one of the easiest to get. Plus, for the curious, this might be an easy way to dip your toes in the BDSM waters. So, if it sounds appealing, give it a try! Even the most basic sensory games can add a lot of extra fun and satisfaction to your sex life.