The strap is a two-piece sex toy that includes a dildo, which is a typical non-vibrating toy, usually in the shape of a penis. The dildo is held in place by a safety belt, which is attached to the wearer's buttocks. Bandages are used for penetrating sexual intercourse, whether it is vagina or anus. When women and men use bandages, this is also called hooking.
However, no matter how one chooses to explore bundled sex, it provides benefits, allowing for contempt, exploration, and affirmation of gender identity, playing with power dynamics, and expanding the concept of penetration. However, especially if you are not familiar with this approach, be sure to pay attention to the following six bundling skills from sex educators before trying.
1. Communication is the key
"Bundled sex requires a dildo and a seat belt... but beyond that, the world of tied sex is your oyster," said Well+Good contributor, gay positivity journalist and educator Gabriel Cassel. "So to explore bundled games before agreeing, be sure to discuss with your partner what bundled sex means for both of you."
For example, do you want to have oral sex, anal sex, sexual intercourse, or a combination with straps? No matter what decision you make, make sure you and your partner are in agreement, because, "This determines how the actual game is played, and it will also play a role in deciding which dildo and seat belt you choose."
For those who do not have a firm monogamous relationship structure, it is important to establish basic rules with a new partner before engaging in sexual intercourse. The reasons for this vary, but, for example, emotional attachment to a dildo is not unheard of. If you don’t like the idea of your partner using the same dildo with other people, it’s important to express it clearly.
2. Knowing that you will not become a professional player overnight
If you are new to bundled sex and feel nervous about...well, the first time bundled sex, practice will help. "It's really fun. Get a new plug-in, just wear it around. It is recommended to wear it when doing daily tasks, such as washing dishes, dancing, and even sending text messages.
You can also masturbate alone while wearing it, which can help you find out how the dildo feels best on your body. Ideally, you will arrive at a place where the strap feels like a powerful extension of you.
3. Not all dildos are the same
Buying straps can be a fun and intimate experience, but whoever gets pierced should ultimately be the person who chooses a dildo, because it is important to make them feel comfortable. If this is not just one person, there may be reasons to choose multiple dildos.
As far as what you are looking for in this selection, in addition to ensuring that the dildo has a flared base (to match the seat belt), the sky is the limit. Do you want something fleshy and realistic, or something like rainbow colors and abstract? There are also slim dildos, plump dildos and dildos that do not require a seat belt and can penetrate both sides at the same time.
4. Cleaning the dildo is important for safe sex
The dildos must be cleaned before and after each use—just like any other sex toy—because they can hide bacteria and spread infections, especially when they are made of porous materials, such as frozen rubber. Therefore, if you can, buy dildos made of human-safe materials, such as silicone or stainless steel. Be sure to use mild, non-scented soap and water or special sex toy cleaner to clean it, and note that silica gel and stainless steel can also be cleaned by boiling.
The safe sex code of conduct applies when using straps, so after obtaining consent and setting any basic rules, make sure you and your partner disclose your STI status. From there, make sure to use a condom on your dildo. If you switch from vaginal use to anal use—even if the same person accepts use—use a new condom. If you switch from wearing to receiving, please also use a new condom.
5. Wide range of wiring harness options
Just as the recipient of strap-on sex should choose a dildo, the person wearing a seat belt should choose it-and there are multiple options. Safety belts that are fastened or fastened around the pelvis are the most common, and they can be belt-shaped.
However, no matter what decision you make, just make sure that the dildo you buy is compatible with your dildo. The dildo is secured in the seat belt with an "O-ring". Some seat belts come with multiple O-ring sizes, and some have only one fixed size, so make sure your dildo fits.
6. Sexual intercourse should make both parties happy
That's right-the person who is infiltrated may not be the only person having fun. When the two people involved like to penetrate, the above-mentioned strapless or double-headed dildo is a good choice, and there is also a vibrating version that provides additional stimulation.
You may also consider enhancing the experience by adding additional toys to your straps. "You can always add a penis ring to the dildo to stimulate the person on the receiving end of the strap a little more," Riley said. There are also some seat belt options, such as this one, leave room to insert a bullet vibrator to provide more stimulation for the wearer.
As for the aftermath, this is a transition back to reality after experiencing sexual contact, and many options may be helpful. "Maybe it's a bath or massage-especially if someone's muscles are still developing," Riley said. "You may want some hugs, or you may want some time alone. These are good things to communicate before negotiation and check afterwards."
Ultimately, communication is the star of all bundled sex techniques to ensure that this is a pleasant time for everyone. Kassel said that partners should check during and after the experience and ask some questions, "Do you prefer a deep, slow stroke like this, or a shallower stroke like this?" or "This is good for you. How does it feel?" After all, if you don't express your desires and needs, it doesn't matter what seat belt or dildo you have.