When you're ready to use your dildo, slowly start sliding it into your vagina only to find things like "I'm too small", "I'm too tight" or "I'm too shallow" that make you The sexual ecstasy came to an abrupt end. So the purpose of this guide is to teach you some of our favorite ways to relax and get comfortable so your dildo slides in as easily and comfortably as possible.
Set mood
Don't just sit on the bed, shove the dildo into the vagina and fuck it. That doesn't sound very sexy, does it? Of course it won't! Instead, it sounds clinical, dull, and boring—it turns masturbating with a dildo into a "quick and dirty" thing to get done and done as quickly as possible before continuing your day. This is not what we want at all!
Creating a romantic, erotic atmosphere is one of the first ways to relax your body (including your vagina) in preparation for a fun time with your favorite dildo.
This can be achieved in a number of ways. Dim the lights - or turn them off completely. Light a candle or incense with your favorite scent. Take a warm bath for a luxurious bath that may include your favorite soap, lotion or bubble bath. Play emotional music - we recommend some soft instruments.
If you want an extra treat, book yourself a massage or spa day and keep the dildo play until your body feels good and relaxed. Alternatively, have your partner give you a massage, especially to remove any pressure from the buttocks, thighs, and lower back (the area closest to the genitals and therefore most likely to affect vaginal tension).
Take the time to open
Once you're relaxed, the next step is to get yourself good and excited. The more aroused you are, the more relaxed your vagina will be—not to mention, the wetter it will be, which means the dildo will slide in easier than you might think.
The best way to do this is through a long, slow-paced foreplay. Stay relaxed throughout. Do not worry. Don't set timers or impose deadlines on yourself. Let your body move at its own pace, whether it's hanging on the edge for a few seconds or slowly building a sweet burn in your core over minutes or even hours.
Of course, how you get aroused or what kind of foreplay you engage in will be the biggest part that will vary from person to person. However, here are some of the people's favorite suggestions:
●Put on your favorite sexy lingerie set - looking cute and sexy in the bedroom isn't just about impressing your partner. Not only can you look cute for yourself, but we've found that looking sexy is also one of the number one ways to start feeling sexy!
● Put yourself in a good mood by reading erotic novels or stories or watching one of your favorite erotic videos. Remember to turn the volume down if you have nosy neighbors!
Enjoy a special treat like a glass of champagne, some dark chocolate or some fruit like berries (maybe even chocolate-dipped strawberries!) Think of it as a date and seduce yourself - you shouldn't be pampered, not just treated as A nightstand or a quick screw?
Stroking and getting yourself excited before putting the dildo into the mix. If you're already aroused once the dildo kicks in, you're more likely to stay relaxed rather than jittery. Use your favorite foreplay tactics to please yourself, whether it's stroking your clitoris, rubbing your nipples, stroking yourself, or any other trick you might like.
Walk slowly. Remember, there is absolutely no rush. You've taken enough time to make yourself the star of the show. Always remind yourself that you're sexy, you're important, you're effective, that's all you are!
Give yourself a break or two. Yes, this may seem odd, even counterintuitive at first - you may find yourself asking, "Isn't the whole point of this exercise just using a dildo on yourself to get off the bus?" While that's the end goal, Or at least one of them (the real goal is really just "feel great"), but that doesn't mean you can't experience any orgasm at all until you've got a dildo.
Many people with vaginas are able to have multiple orgasms, anywhere from 2 to 5 or more, during a single session of masturbation or intercourse. This means you can let yourself go with a finger or a small bullet vibrator and then still experience a second or even third time with the help of the gentle service of the dildo.
And, as a bonus, having an orgasm or two before introducing the dildo into the mix will mean you'll be more relaxed during penetration. The surge of endorphins and "happy hormones" that accompanies orgasm will open you up to what your favorite dildo has to offer.
Lube, lube, lube!
By now, you're probably a little tired of hearing about lube. You might ask yourself. But the truth is, we only focus on lube because it's that important! More than anything else, lube makes sex and masturbation more comfortable and pleasurable than ever.
Unfortunately, many women mistakenly believe that the natural lubrication produced by the vagina is sufficient for tension-free, pressure-free, and pain-free dildo penetration. Unfortunately, this is often far from the case.
Different people produce different amounts of natural lubrication—and the amount you produce may even vary based on factors such as recent illness, proper hydration, menstrual cycles, menopause, stress, general mental health, and even the relative humidity or dryness of your local climate.
Also, natural juices tend to be less durable than synthetic oils and can dry out during penetration. This is more likely when playing with a dildo, as even the most realistic material is usually harder, firmer, and harder than the flesh of a penis.
Even if you've been able to insert a penis or dildo into yourself before using only naturally occurring fluids, that doesn't mean you can do it every time.
We always recommend keeping lube - and a lot! - Have it on hand, even if only as a backup. The lube makes the whole experience softer, smoother, and more comfortable, which in turn makes you more relaxed and less likely to strain during insertion.
Make sure you're using the correct type of oil - not all oils are created equal!
In general, we tend to recommend thicker silicone lubes when using dildos because they stay wet longer and are less likely to become "tacky" or "tacky" than water- or oil-based alternatives sticky". However, if you are using a dildo that is itself made of silicone, you should definitely not use any lube that is made of silicone or even contains silicone. This is because the silicone reacts poorly to itself, which can cause your dildo to start breaking down and rapidly degrade in quality.
If you're not sure which type of lube is best or which type of lube you'll end up preferring, try buying many different types of lube and experimenting.
Many sex toy retailers offer small "sample sizes" of lube, which are great to try if you're not sure which type of lube will do the job. Eventually you'll find one -- or maybe several! - All kinds of lubricating oils for you.