Find the right dildo. Here are some tips for buying the right dildo for your needs. Get used to your new toy. Put on your seat belt and dildo and get used to how it feels before going straight to bed with your partner. Ask her to put your seat belt on for you. The tighter it is, the more control you will have and the more sensation you will feel.
However, for some reason straps are not as common as they might be. For example; this author never used. You, dear reader, most likely haven't used it either. So in order to understand why you should do it and how to get started. So buckle up, because we're getting started.
Why straps are an opening.
Just because you probably won't use them during sex doesn't mean they don't have merit. When I ask people "what makes strapping such an important part of your sex life?", they tell me that it adds a unique twist to bringing sex toys into the couple's game by:
● Wearing a strap allows you to free up your hands while pleasing your partner with a vibrator or dildo.
● With some manipulations, it is possible to use a strap for double penetration - one appendage in the female partner's vagina and the other in her anus.
● Wearing a strap can help some men when experiencing the effects of erectile dysfunction.
● They allow the partner to engage in some gender-bending or sexual role-playing because the female partner can engage in sex "as a man".
There are many more reasons why these couples swear by strap-on sex, and if your interest is enough to motivate yourself to try it, here are some beginner tips for enjoying strap-on with your partner.
First, know your type of harness: The strap-on setup is the most common type of wearable harness, and you place it around your hips so the dildo is where the man's penis is on his body. A dildo is one of your options, and you will then pass it through a hole in the harness for your partner.
Before making an investment, it's important for you to see and feel the seat belt for yourself so you can be more sure it's the right one. Some things to consider when buying a harness:
Is it adjustable, or is it one size fits all? Ideally, you can choose to adjust the fit so that it fits your body when you wear it. Leather or faux leather straps may have buckles that you can use to adjust the fit.
Can it hold multiple sizes of dildos, or just one? Some seat belts are designed to be used in only one size, so be aware of this.
After taking it home and unpacking it, wear it in a non-sexual setting for a while to get used to it. You may be experiencing owning a brand new appendage, in which case you should familiarize yourself with it before using it for a partner. Try masturbating it to get a feel for it in action, and when you're comfortable enough, it's time to include it in your co-op play.
Start slowly and wear your strap-on dildo throughout your foreplay so you can always be aware of it. When it comes to penetration, never forget that lube - lots and lots of lube - is your best friend (and obviously your partner too).
For the beginner position with straps, dog pose is a proven way to get started. This is especially true if the insert is brand new to you, as female strap wearers will find brand new inserts are required and take some getting used to. What makes the whole experience run smoothly is clear communication between the partners. As long as you have such a performance, then you can already do anything as a couple!